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Let’s Talk About –“Girl, YOU ARE 25? Get Married Already!”

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This is not new for unmarried Asian women who are in their 20s. I don’t get the point in questioning someone else’s personal choices, whereas Islam gives you no right to deal with such. It’s pretty clear that according to Islam, we are not allowed to put another person in an uncomfortable position. Questioning my personal choice is uncomfortable, at least for me. And I know there are a lot of women who’d relate. This is for them, you are not alone, and if you aren’t married in your 20s, it’s OK. Allah (SWT) has you back. Even if you don’t want to get married, it’s still OK because that’s what you chose to be.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, “Part of a person’s being a good Muslim is leaving alone that which does not concern him.”

You Have No Say in Someone’s Personal Choice

Not questioning another person’s personal choice is simple, but I don’t understand why our community finds it hard. Some people treat getting married like a trophy; of course, it could be for you, but that’s not the case for everyone. And just because you’re married doesn’t mean you have the right to question unmarried women. Such questions put the girls in vulnerable situations. Not every girl is strong enough to shrug it off or give right back, and some sensitive people take your question to their hearts.

There are girls in their 20s who spend their nights crying, thinking that they are not beautiful enough to get married. They assume they wouldn’t find “the” one because they’ve already turned 25. Some girls feel like a burden to their families because that’s what the families say. It’s important to understand that not everyone is mentally strong to put up with whatever you ask. Some girls are pushed into mental traumas because of questioning their personal choices.

According to some, when a girl passes the age of 20-25, she’s treated as a commodity because she’s at the age of marrying. When she attends an event, the very question aimed at her is, “are you married or when are you marrying?.” Isn’t there anything else in the world to talk about? Or if you don’t have anything to talk about, you could simply remain silent.

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or else keep silent.”

Married Women Degrading Unmarried Women

The worst of all is when a married woman degrades an unmarried woman. If you are married in your 20s, Allah (SWT) has written it that way, so it shouldn’t make you question an unmarried woman. Some women don’t want to marry, and they don’t find it as prestigious as you do.

There are instances when single women are treated like they have all the time in the world, and they have no responsibilities on their shoulders. They always get the “wait until you are married to know what responsibilities are” or “wait until you handle kids.” Single women have responsibilities, and they have chores to do, they have work stress to handle, and so on and. Just because they haven’t married doesn’t mean they don’t live! It’s as if you have to be married to prove your existence.

I’ve got advice from sisters who got married in their 20s, and they’ve asked me to wait until I’m ready. They’ve advised me to enjoy life and not to stress about not getting married early. There’s always time for everything.

You should prioritize yourself and work on building it. You need to become financially independent if that’s what you want. When the time comes, Allah (SWT) will send the right person into your life. There is nothing the Creator doesn’t know.

If You Are Unmarried and Stressed About it

Please don’t, Allah’s timing is perfect, and your time will come. He knows what’s right for you and when to make it happen. But you can always ask dua for a righteous spouse while becoming one.

You can also recite supplications that will help you get married soon. Remember, it’s a phase of life, while you want to enjoy it, you shouldn’t forget other things like self-development. While you ask dua for a good partner, you should think about yourself. Spend your time becoming a better version of yourself.

Most girls I know are usually fed with interest to get married and not focus on themselves. They don’t find a job, or they don’t do anything that will benefit them, which leads to a lot of stress because they are unemployed most of the time. When you don’t do anything, you have a lot of time to think, so your mind will wander into different things, and that’s not good for your mental health.

So if you are unemployed, try to do something that interests you, such as crafting, baking, writing, and so on. There are a lot of ideas that’ll help you make money while staying at home. When you occupy yourself, you’ll have less time to think about marriages or why you haven’t found your partner.

Trust Allah’s timing because he knows the unseen!

If You Are Unmarried And Don’t Want to Get Married

I know you might get the worst of criticisms, but Allah (SWT) is with you, and you know what you are doing. As someone who has seen toxic relationships and ugly household arguments, I can understand your take on marriage. Take your time, think about it, and if you can spend a few minutes reading this “Is Marriage the Prophet’s Sunnah?” you might get more insights.

However, in the end, it’s you and the Creator. It’s easy to question someone but to get into their shoes is tough. They might be going through a lot of problems, heartbreaks, mental traumas, and financial issues. If you are making it even harder by questioning their personal choices, I think you’d have to seek apologies if you want to please Allah (SWT).

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) says: “Allah is kind, and He loves kindness in all matters.”

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Gaza’s Broken Daily Life: Weddings, Tents and Hospitals Under Fire and Siege

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Gaza’s heinous genocide is no longer confined to moments of direct attack. It is now visible in the complete breakdown of daily life itself. Families are still being butchered vehemently in places where they had sought shelter. To worsen these matters, shortages of fuel, engine oil, gas, and spare parts are crippling hospitals, bakeries, rescue vehicles, water systems, and ordinary transport.

A Tent Camp Hit in Gaza City

On June 6, despite the so-called “ceasefire,” an Israeli air attack hit a tent camp in Gaza City where displaced Palestinians were sheltering. Resultantly, at least seven people were killed, while at least 15 others were injured, many of them treated in intensive care. Women and children were believed to be among the casualties. The strike hit a United Nations school compound that had become a shelter for displaced families.

These were displaced people already living with the consequences of bombardment, evacuation, and loss. A tent camp is meant to be a temporary refuge for families with nowhere else to go. When such a place is hit, it deepens the fear that no civilian space is beyond danger.

A Wedding Turned Into Mourning

Moreover, the Gaza City strike by Israel targeted a tent next to another tent where a wedding appeared to be taking place. Unfortunately, earlier the same day, a strike in Khan Younis killed a man who was scheduled to be married later that day. His cousin said the family had prepared for the wedding but was instead attending his funeral.

This detail shows how deeply the genocide has entered private life. A wedding in Gaza is not just a celebration but an attempt to preserve social life despite displacement, hunger, and fear. When a groom is killed on the day of his wedding, even brief moments of normality remain exposed to violence.

The Ceasefire Gap

The attacks came amid discussions over the Gaza ceasefire process. Specifically, Hamas was preparing for meetings in Egypt on the implementation of the ceasefire agreement, while several Israeli attacks across Gaza that day killed at least nine people. Gaza remains under Israeli military control, and the second phase of the agreement has been stalled for months.

For people, the real meaning of a ceasefire depends on whether people can sleep safely, gather without fear, reach hospitals, and rebuild some predictable rhythm of life. If strikes continue and basic services keep failing, the gap between imaginative political claims and reality remains painfully wide.

The Shortages Freezing Daily Life

Alongside these unprovoked attacks, Gaza is facing another severe pressure due to a shortage of gas, engine oil, and spare parts. Undoubtedly, these shortages are affecting emergency services, bakeries, water supplies, and hospitals. Items that may sound technical outside Gaza now decide whether a generator runs, a vehicle moves, bread is baked, and whether water can be pumped.

These shortages are damaging daily life in connected ways:

  • Hospitals need generators and spare parts to keep operating rooms functioning
  • Bakeries need power and maintenance materials to continue producing bread
  • Water systems need energy supplies, chemicals and parts to keep desalination and pumping services running.

Hospitals and Rescue Services Under Pressure

Hospitals have been among the most vulnerable since October 2023. Al-Aqsa Martyrs Hospital in central Gaza warned of an imminent health disaster after extreme power failures affected surgical operating rooms. Moreover, all of its generators have stopped working while summer heat is expected to place more pressure on the remaining equipment.

This is not a minor operational issue as Gaza’s remaining hospitals are already treating genocidal injuries, malnutrition, infections and chronic illness in overcrowded conditions. If generators fail, surgical care, emergency treatment, refrigeration, lighting, and essential equipment are all affected. Gaza’s authorities have also warned that fire and rescue operations risk coming to a halt as vehicles break down due to shortages of spare parts, fuel and engine oil.

Bread, Water and Survival

Food and water systems are also largely affected. Bakeries depend on fuel, generators, and maintenance materials, while water systems need energy supplies, chemicals, and spare parts. UNICEF data showed that seawater desalination output had fallen to about 16,000 cubic metres per day, compared with 20,000 in March, due to the restrictions on essential supplies. In a densely displaced population, any reduction in water production quickly becomes a public health concern.

This is why Gaza’s broken daily life must be understood as a connected genocidal crisis. The strike on a tent camp, the killing of a groom, the failure of hospital generators, the collapse of rescue vehicles and the shortage of water-production supplies are not separate stories. Together, they show how civilian life is being attacked directly and indirectly at the same time.

In a nutshell, until these conditions change, daily life in Gaza will remain trapped between immediate violence and the gradual destruction of everything needed to survive.

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Gaza’s Water Crisis: When Thirst Becomes a Weapon of War

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In Gaza, water is no longer something families can expect to find when they need it. It has become a daily search, a health risk, and a painful measure of how deeply daily life has collapsed. For thousands of displaced families, the day begins with containers, queues, extreme uncertainty, and the fear that even the little water they manage to collect may not be enough for drinking, cooking, washing, or protecting children from deadly diseases.

This is not a normal shortage caused by dry weather or poor planning. Gaza’s water crisis is part of the genocide stretched far beyond its limits.

“Water is life and the right to life is a basic human right.”

When water systems fail, the impact is immediate and personal. A family cannot cook properly; a mother cannot keep her child clean, and a wounded person cannot wash safely. Thirst becomes only one part of a much wider and often unseen disaster.

Gaza’s Children Are Living With Daily Water Uncertainty

UNICEF’s latest Water, Sanitation and Hygiene report paints a devastating picture. It highlights that 1.1 million children in Gaza face daily water uncertainty, while 82% of families remain water insecure. Even more alarming, up to 70% of people are unable to collect the minimum six litres per person per day needed only for drinking and cooking. UNICEF and partners are still trying to support emergency water services through trucked water, desalination, wells, and limited network supply, but access and operating conditions remain highly restricted.

Six litres is an extremely small amount when seen against real family needs. It may help someone survive the day, but it does not allow a household to live with dignity. Families need water for hygiene, laundry, cleaning shelters, caring for infants, supporting the elderly, preparing food safely, and preventing disease. In Gaza, these normal needs have become difficult choices.

More specifically, children suffer first in such conditions. They are more vulnerable to dehydration, diarrhoeal disease, skin infections, and the emotional stress of living in dirty, overcrowded spaces. Many have already lost homes, schools, routines, and safety. Now even the simplest comfort, a clean drink of water, is uncertain.

The Collapse of Water Systems Is Deepening the Genocide

Gaza’s water emergency is not only about empty containers. It is a deliberate genocidal strategy by Israel. Water primarily depends on pumps, wells, desalination plants, pipes, electricity, fuel, chemicals, spare parts, engineers, drivers, and safe roads. Most of these parts have either been destroyed or entirely blocked by Israel.

In another report, UNICEF states that seawater desalination output fell from 20,000 cubic metres per day in March to 16,000 cubic metres per day because of shortages of chemicals and spare parts. It also says shortages of engine oil, lubricating oil, and other essential items are disrupting water production and related services.

The Al Mansoura filling point shows how fragile the system has become. Water-trucking operations there were suspended after two UNICEF-contracted truck drivers were killed in April. UNICEF says the site had been critical for the daily drinking-water access of 285,000 people, and partners are now trucking water from desalination plants at an additional cost of about $40,000 per day to replace the two million litres previously collected from that point.

Sanitation Failure Turns Thirst Into Disease

When clean water disappears, sanitation collapses simultaneously. Gaza’s overcrowded displacement sites are already under severe pressure, and the lack of proper water makes hygiene almost impossible. Waste accumulates, pests spread, and families are forced to live in conditions where preventable diseases can move quickly.

OCHA’s latest humanitarian report warned that health risks from pests and rodents remain high because access to landfills is restricted and essential sanitation items remain difficult to bring in. It also highlighted UNICEF’s warning that water shortages are forcing families into a daily trade-off between drinking, hygiene, and disease prevention.

This is where the crisis becomes especially cruel. A family may know what it needs to do to stay healthy, but knowledge is not enough when there is no water, no soap, no proper waste collection, and no safe place to live. Parents are not failing their children, but the conditions around them are failing every basic standard of human protection.

Aid Is Shrinking While Needs Keep Growing

The emergency response is also under serious strain due to Israel’s complete blockade of all borders, especially the Rafah border. OCHA reports that since mid-May, four partners have been forced to start phasing out water-trucking activities because of funding shortages. Some have already stopped, while others are expected to complete the phase-out by mid-June. As a result, more than 330,000 people across around 250 sites risk losing their primary drinking-water source.

For people outside Gaza, this may sound like a usual problem, but for a displaced family, it means tomorrow’s water may not arrive. In a place where markets are broken, movement is dangerous, and public services are shattered, losing a water-trucking route can immediately push families toward death.

Thirst as a Test of the World’s Conscience

Water is one of the clearest measures of human dignity. Without it, people cannot remain healthy, clean, or safe. In Gaza, the water crisis shows how genocide destroyed life even beyond the moment of Israel’s attacks. It continues through damaged pipes, stalled pumps, empty tanks, contaminated surroundings, and children growing up around scarcity.

The world should not wait until disease spreads further or water systems break beyond repair. Gaza needs safe humanitarian access, fuel, spare parts, treatment chemicals, protected workers, restored sanitation services, and sustained funding for emergency water delivery. Most of all, people need protection from the conditions that are turning basic survival into a daily struggle.

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Gaza Flotilla Activists Face Extreme Israeli Abuse as the World Watches the Blockade’s Brutality

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The Global Sumud Flotilla, which was made up of 40 vessels, tried to sail towards Gaza with much-needed humanitarian aid and a direct challenge to Israel’s blockade. Unfortunately, Israeli forces intercepted the boats in international waters and detained around 430 activists.

It is not a story of a blocked aid mission but a collection of facts revolving around intense abuse, humiliation, anger, and a brutal reminder of what Gaza’s blockade really means. For the people of Gaza, the flotilla is a symbol of hope, but for Israel, it is being perceived as a threat to its heinous genocidal mission.

A Hope Against the Siege

For decades, Gaza’s people have lived under an intense blockade that restricts movement, controls access to goods, separates families, and turns humanitarian relief into a political bargaining tool. Since Israel’s genocide in Gaza intensified, the siege has become even deadlier.

Hunger, destroyed hospitals, mass displacement, disease, and extreme shortages of fuel and medicine now shape daily life. This is why flotilla mattered, but the question that the world is asking is legitimate: Why should food, medicine, and solidarity be treated as crimes?

The flotilla, as a hope for the people of Gaza, who are suffering from famine and diseases, was intercepted by Israel about 250 miles or roughly 400 km off Gaza’s coast. These aid vessels were still far from Gaza when Israeli forces illegally captured them from international waters.

Analysts are highlighting that these flotilla activists, who volunteered from more than 40 countries, were not entering an Israeli city or attacking any military base. In fact, they were sailing through open waters to help innocent people who were dying of extreme hunger and bombardment.

Extreme Abuse by Israel

After the release of some of the detainees, they described inhumane treatment that had never been imagined before. South African activists highlighted that they were electrically shocked, denied water, food, and toilets, and were kept in abysmal conditions.

Moreover, most of the activists said that they were sexually assaulted in a very harsh manner. Some other activists also reported extreme beating and humiliation. For example, 15 cases of sexual assault, including rape, have been reported during May 2026.

Ben-Gvir Turned Humiliation into Spectacle

The most shameful moment came from Israeli minister Itamar Ben-Gvir. Even the government of France banned him from entering French territory after he taunted zip-tied detainees and waved an Israeli flag over them. France’s foreign minister called his actions “unspeakable,” and Poland also imposed a five-year ban.

He also shared footage of restrained activists, triggering international outrage and calls for broader European sanctions.

This was not hidden mistreatment accidentally exposed. It was deliberately performed, and the minister chose to stand over bound detainees and turn their humiliation into a political message.

When a genocidal state official proudly films powerless detainees, cruelty is no longer a secret, but a policy theatre.

Airport Violence Added Another Layer

It did not end with unlawful detention and punishment, as another episode of extreme humiliation was shown at the airport. At the Bilbao Airport, after some activists returned from Israeli detention, police harshly beat them. Videos showed some police officers brutally beating and dragging humanitarian activists.

This was just a glimpse of how Israel treats people who come to help humanity. They were maltreated in such an inhumane way to make them an example for the world. Anyone who comes to Gaza to help people will either be killed or detained in death-like prisons.

In this scenario, words are not enough as Palestinians remain heavily trapped, and those trying to reach them are harshly beaten, detained, deported, or killed. Condemnation must turn into legal action, sanctions, arms restrictions, diplomatic costs, and pressure to end the genocide.

The World Saw the Blockade’s Face

Israel may deny everything, but the world knows about its genocidal policies far better than ever before. It may deport activists and call the flotilla a provocation, but this episode revealed something the world should not unsee.

Even some activists from Brazil and Spain are still detained by Israel, and they are being punished in unprecedented ways. In this regard, Amnesty International also reported several injuries to these flotilla activists during detention.

After observing all this, one thing is certain: Israel is trying to eliminate Palestine from the world map and make every effort to stop necessary aid from reaching Gaza. Nobody can imagine the instances of cruelty by Israel in the 21st century. Even the International Court of Justice has urged this prolonged genocide to be stopped as soon as possible; otherwise, life in Gaza is under extreme threat.

Gaza’s isolation is being enforced with extreme cruelty. This time, the world did not have to imagine it. It is already watching!

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